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There is a path in front of you, you may not see it yet, it's there, its a path I've walked and helped other survivors walk and it all starts with honoring what is right for you, putting yourself first for a change and even taking a stand for your healing.


In this 15-minute audio recording, you will get more comfortable with the positive aspects of your character and reclaim your self-worth so you can feel confident, use your voice, stand up for yourself

WITH MY SINGATURE COACHING PROCESS, YOU WILL IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE, TAKE BACK YOUR SELF-WORTH & HEAL CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.

SOMEONE YOU CAN COUNT ON

Give yourself the gift of coaching. With weekly sessions, you'll have someone in your corner that is always available to give guidance and support on how we can improve our lives!

PERSONAL GUIDANCE AND MENTORSHIP

My process is highly personal. You have questions about it, and I will guide you personally! Your nervous system may be in a different place than everyone else - no worries; we're all on our own journeys here (for better or worse). However if there are particular concerns or anxieties that arise during the journey then let me know so they can easily be addressed together because ultimately this life belongs to YOU...and only YOU

A SIMPLE, DOABLE PROCESS YOU CAN TRUST

This isn’t theory, textbooks, and workbooks – this is actionable, quality-enhancing, get-shit-done kind of stuff. Each week you’ll have practical steps you take that are proven to help you heal, that will empower you and nourish you to your core.

what everyone is saying

"I have had major breakthroughs allowing me the ability to move forward in my life goals and purposes. The saying you don’t know what you don’t know is true! I did not know the specific things I was holding onto, or rather the things that were in the driver's seat of my life. I have found freedom from those chains and peace and joy today!! Everyday! Contessa has the gift to lead and guide you through group work, individual work, and events that are life-altering."

- SHANNAN D, DALLAS DREAM PROPERTIES

SO WHO AM I?

Contessa Akin is an Emotional Wellbeing Coach who helps women find love and peace in life.

Through her signature Phoenix Process, she provides a structured journey to sustainable healing. She understands the challenges women face because she's been there herself.

With over 10 years of experience helping thousands of women overcome their pasts, Contessa is committed to helping you become the best version of yourself so you can feel better too.

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Self healing that won't feel good to you

Emotional Wellbeing
October 16, 2022•2 min read

The trap is all things related to healing will be simple, clear, linear, and easy to do.

So that means it'll all feel awesome, right…

😳😳😳


Not exactly.

The biggest thing that won't feel good is the feelings that show up.

Allow me to illustrate using a personal story.

My biological mother abandoned me. She left my sister and me on the side of a highway and drove away.

For a long time, I had zero emotion associated with her, kind of like she just simply didn't exist.

Fast forward 30 or so years, and I am doing deep dives into myself, healing, and recovering from years of childhood trauma when the subject of "mothers" came up.

I'm fine here and think I'll breeze through.

I love growth, deep dives, and stirring shit up.

Then bam…. smack… I am hit with an overwhelming feeling of anger and betrayal. 

Whhhaaaatttt????

Where the hell did that come from?

So as you can see, shit comes up.

Feelings get stirred.

They aren't super comfortable.

It won't feel good

This is why people will say yeah, but it's worth it….

So the solution is to learn how to be uncomfortable with your own feelings.

The process is sitting with these emotions for as long as it takes for the emotions to release.

We are so accustomed to buffering.

You know, run, hide, fight, numb out, pretend….

Yeah, don't do that...

When you learn how to sit with your emotions for as long as it takes, you have mastery and control over your human experience. 

And when you do that, you can take a stand for what's important to you, use your voice, offer compassion, and enjoy meaningful, sustainable connections to yourself and who you choose to allow in.

Annnddddd, that is why it's worth it 😉


XOXO

Contessa 


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