Download The Reclaim Your Self-Worth Audio
There is a path in front of you, you may not see it yet, it's there, its a path I've walked and helped other survivors walk and it all starts with honoring what is right for you, putting yourself first for a change and even taking a stand for your healing.
In this 15-minute audio recording, you will get more comfortable with the positive aspects of your character and reclaim your self-worth so you can feel confident, use your voice, stand up for yourself
what everyone is saying
"I have had major breakthroughs allowing me the ability to move forward in my life goals and purposes. The saying you don’t know what you don’t know is true! I did not know the specific things I was holding onto, or rather the things that were in the driver's seat of my life. I have found freedom from those chains and peace and joy today!! Everyday! Contessa has the gift to lead and guide you through group work, individual work, and events that are life-altering."
- SHANNAN D, DALLAS DREAM PROPERTIES
SO WHO AM I?
Contessa Akin is an Emotional Wellbeing Coach who helps women find love and peace in life.
Through her signature Phoenix Process, she provides a structured journey to sustainable healing. She understands the challenges women face because she's been there herself.
With over 10 years of experience helping thousands of women overcome their pasts, Contessa is committed to helping you become the best version of yourself so you can feel better too.
What's On The Blog
You Are Enough
You are your own worst critics.
No one knows you better than yourself, which is both a good and bad thing.
You know all of your insecurities, every little doubt or fear.
These thoughts can be so loud that they drown out everything else.
You struggle with self-doubt.
I am here to tell you that you are enough—exactly as you are.
It’s not always easy to empower yourself, but it is important. In order to lead a happy and fulfilling life, you need to learn how to be your own best friend. Here are three ways to start empowering yourself:
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
One of the quickest ways to kill your self-confidence is by comparing yourself to others.
Every single person on this planet is unique and special in their own way—including you! So instead of looking at what someone else has that you don’t, focus on what makes you beautiful and special, what your strengths are.
When you compare yourself to others, all you see are their highlights and successes—you don’t see the blood, sweat, and tears that got them there.
Instead of comparing your behind-the-scenes footage to someone else’s highlight reel, focus on your own journey and cheer yourself on along the way.
Challenge Your Negative Thoughts
When negative thoughts pop into your head, challenge them!
Don’t believe everything you think. Just because you have a thought doesn’t make it true. You have somewhere in the neighborhood of 60,000 thoughts a day! You get to choose which thoughts you entertain.
Start noticing the negative thoughts that run through your mind daily and then ask yourself if they’re true. Chances are, they’re not. Remember, thoughts become things—so make sure your thoughts are things that will empower and encourage you, not tear you down. After all, you get to choose.
Talk kindly to yourself.
The things you say to yourself matter—a lot.
Pay attention to the self-talk running through your head throughout the day. Would you say those things to your best friend? If not, why are you saying them to yourself? Talk kindly and compassionately to yourself like you would talk to someone you love dearly.
After all, YOU ARE worthy of that kind of love and respect! Fill your head with encouraging words so that when doubts start creeping in, YOU can be the one to shut them down quickly before they take root.
Get started improving the quality of your life Today