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Building Self-Worth – Do You Have What It Takes To Feel Really Good About Yourself?

September 15, 20224 min read

Self-worth is the subjective appraisal of one’s worth. It can be compared to a value placed on one’s life. Self-worth encompasses many different concepts, including self-image, self-confidence, self-talk, and self-efficacy. Self-worth can also be described as how you assess your own ability to succeed at particular tasks, goals, or undertakings. As recovering from abuse, the concept self-worth can be even more important because it is often related to our ability to sustain ourselves after we are emotionally abused.

There are many prosocial emotions, but there is only one true emotion that has the power to transform everything for the better. And that is self-worth. Self-worth is the sole determining factor in determining your level of success. No matter what your abilities are, without self-worth you will always be just “me” and not the person that can do incredible things that others cannot do. It is possible for everyone to become the person that has the potential to be the most successful, the person that is capable of doing extraordinary things every time.

So how do we build self-worth? We build self-worth through having a healthy self-image which includes being completely comfortable with who we are as an individual and embracing our uniqueness. Every time we take ownership over who we are, we gain a sense of self-worth and this feeling of self-worth, which is our unique inner voice, has the power to transform all that we do.

Embracing our uniqueness is one of the most important keys to building high self-esteem and confidence. We do not have to go to a professional to be confident about our skills, talents or abilities. Instead we must find ways to become more aware of our strengths, weaknesses and learn to be confident and self-confident about these things. Often we are very confident about our skills, but when it comes to something that is not our area of expertise we tend to lack self-worth and become low self-assured. By becoming more aware of our own strengths we can gain a better understanding of where we need to improve, and we can also work towards improving those areas that need improvement.

Another way that we build self-worth is through using self-confidence and mood boosters. Having a healthy self-image is important but having a healthy self-image is only half of the solution. To feel good about ourselves, we often need to use some mood boosters to help us be even more happy and confident. Mood boosters can be anything from reading a motivating book to getting an energy boost by participating in an activity that we enjoy. These mood boosters can sometimes be as simple as getting a cup of coffee, but in order to get the most out of them we must do them consistently and for longer periods of time.

As I outlined in the first paragraph, there are many ways that we build our self-worth every single time that we participate in a task or activity that is deemed important or meaningful to us. The trick is however is that we must make sure that we are building this self-worth as opposed to just focusing on it when it is not really necessary. If we spend all of our time focusing on our lack of self-worth we will never really feel good about ourselves and this is one thing that we should avoid at all costs. If you follow this advice on a regular basis you will find that you are more able to get the most out of your life and you will be more confident in everything that you do.

P.S. Whenever you’re ready… here are 4 ways I can help you increase your sense of self-worth so you can say “no” use your voice, stand up for yourself, and feel more confident:

1. Listen to The Bold Survivor Podcast

Join me each week as I interview survivors, experts and drop juicy tidbits of my own. Each episode contains powerful information to help you heal your wounding, connect better, and own that beautiful innate value that lives inside Every. Single. One. of. Us! —  Click Here

2. Grab a free copy of my book

It’s my signature system that takes you down into your core story and back up like a Phoenix to fly free. — Click Here

3. Join The Bold Survivor Collective and connect with survivors who are healing too It’s my Facebook community where bold survivors learn to heal, rise up, and be the bold beautiful souls they were called to be. —  Click Here

4. Join my Year-Long Group Coaching Membership Program

I’m bringing together women who are eager to end the self-doubt, shame and guilt….If you’d like to work with me on your emotional wellbeing plans… Click Here


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